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Perth mother desperately searches for daughter missing on Vancouver Island
 
 
BY ZEV SINGER, OTTAWA CITIZEN DECEMBER 11, 2012 10:03 PM
 
 
 http://www.ottawacitizen.com/news/Perth+mother+desperately+searches+daughter+missing+Vancouver+Island/7684492/story.html

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Facebook photo of Emma Fillipoff, 26, of Perth, who has gone missing on Vancouver Island. She was last seen Nov. 18 in Victoria. A Facebook page has been set up to try to help find her.
OTTAWA — Two weeks ago, Shelley Fillipoff put everything on hold and flew from Ottawa to Victoria, B.C., where, day by day, she searches the city streets. She plans to stay there until she finds her daughter.

Fillipoff, an elementary school teacher at the Queen Elizabeth School in Perth, took the trip after a series of phone calls she received from her daughter, Emma, 26.

Emma was in a fragile emotional state and was living in a women’s shelter. With a history of mental illness in the family, her mother was worried.

Over the course of five days, her phone calls home alternated between asking for help and pushing it away.

“For every phone call that said, ‘I need your help. Would you come?’ There was at least one that followed that said, ‘No, no, please don’t. Let me do this by myself, Mum. I need to figure things out.’ And I respected that.”

But to the mother’s ear, the last call seemed different. On the morning of Wednesday, Nov. 28, Shelley heard something in her daughter’s voice that led her to a decision. She lied and promised not to come, then she bought a plane ticket. Her daughter needed her.

At 11:00 that night she arrived at the Sandy Merriman House, but was told Emma had left the shelter five hours earlier.

Shelley couldn’t find her, and she has not been seen since. All of her possessions, however, including her laptop, her passport and recently borrowed library books, were found inside the 20-year-old Mazda Emma drove.

Emma, who trained and has worked as a chef, has no history of disappearing, no criminal record and no history with drugs.

Yet, staff at the shelter told Shelley they feared Emma could be a danger to herself.

Shelley said she is staying focused on her search, not on thinking about what might be.

“I can’t sit, I can’t sleep, I can’t eat,” she said. “What am I going to do? I have to look for her. That’s the bottom line: I’m going to find her. I’m going to make sure she’s safe. I don’t know that I’m always positive, but I’m always positive that my love for her is undying and that we as a family can’t be without one of ours.

“I can’t be without one of my kids, so I’m going to find her.”

So, every day she works to build her network of people who know Emma or who might be in a position to cross paths with her. She talks regularly with the Victoria police, updates the Help us find Emma Fillipoff page on Facebook at www.facebook.com/HelpUsFindEmmaFillipoff, and she distributes flyers with her daughter’s picture.

“I’m working with everybody here,” she said.

Emma, whose often-braided hair reached below her waist, is described as sensitive, shy, artistic and dreamy. She is five-foot-five and somewhere around 100 pounds.

Shelley Fillipoff said she has set no time limit on the search for her daughter.

“My search is going to be until I find her safe.”

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #1 on: December 11, 2012, 09:36:33 PM »
I wonder what Emma was doing at a women's homeless shelter. Was she travelling, without money, fleeing an abusive relationship? Difficult to be looking for a fragile missing daughter at this time of year.

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #2 on: December 11, 2012, 10:47:09 PM »
Emma Fillipoff has gone missing on Vancouver Island. She was last seen Nov. 18 in Victoria.

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #3 on: January 02, 2013, 02:08:15 PM »
I'm hoping Emma will be found safe, but at this point it is not looking good. My thoughts are with her mother as she continues to search.   


Perth woman faces difficult choice in her search for missing daughter
 
By Zev Singer, Ottawa Citizen January 2, 2013 1:49 PM
   

OTTAWA — Shelley Fillipoff, the Perth woman who has been searching the streets of Victoria, B.C. for her missing daughter for the last five weeks, is now facing the awful decision of whether to continue her search on the west coast or come home.

Emma Fillipoff, 26, has been missing since Nov. 28. Those who know Emma in Victoria believe that at the time of her disappearance she was in danger of taking her own life, but her mother has searched on, combing the city for even the smallest clue.

Emma, a trained chef, had been in a fragile emotional state and was living in a shelter. Shelley told the Citizen in mid-December that she decided to fly to Victoria after a series of phone calls in which her daughter alternated between asking for help and pushing it away.

“For every phone call that said, ‘I need your help. Would you come?’ there was at least one that followed that said, ‘No, no, please don’t. Let me do this by myself, Mum. I need to figure things out.’ And I respected that,” Shelley said in December.

On Nov. 28, after hearing a change her daughter’s voice, she decided that her daughter needed her. She lied, promising Emma she wouldn’t come, but then bought a plane ticket.

At 11 that night she arrived at the Sandy Merriman House, but was told Emma had left the shelter five hours earlier.

Shelley couldn’t find her, and Emma has not been seen since. All of her possessions, however, including her laptop, her passport and recently borrowed library books, were found inside the 20-year-old Mazda Emma drove.

Emma has no previous history of disappearing, no criminal record and no history with drugs.

When Shelley got to Victoria, she worked hard to set up a network of people who know Emma and to carefully record all leads and follow them up. She has worked with the police and has been postering the city. Strangers have stepped forward to help — the Citizen story in December alone was shared on Facebook more than 4,000 times.

But by now, after five weeks of daily searching and co-ordinating, the leads have been exhausted.

“We have nothing, we have absolutely nothing,” Shelley said Tuesday night from Victoria. “We have no leads, we have no clues. We just don’t know what’s happened.”

Shelley didn’t come home to Perth for the holidays.

“I spent Christmas in bed,” she said.

And what’s really tough, she said, is the choice she’s headed for.

“I know that I’m going to have to make a decision one of these days, to go home — because nothing’s happening here,” she said.

What keeps her there is the knowledge that when a lead does turn up, she is able to respond and follow up more quickly than the police can. She doesn’t mean that as a criticism; the police have a whole city to take care of, while she has only this one all-consuming, full-time pursuit.

Her actual job, as an elementary school teacher, has like the rest of her life been on hold. She says her principal has been very supportive, but she knows there will be a limit to how long the situation can last.

“People have pointed out to me at some point I might be facing having to sell my house or something, I suppose. I don’t know. To be honest, I don’t know. I just focus on Emma. I don’t really think in terms of anything but finding Emma.”

She said that while she takes into account that she has other adult children back home that she wants to be with, she doesn’t want money to be a factor in the search for her daughter.

“I can’t allow that to interfere,” she said.

She said she hates the idea of giving up on Emma.

“It’s going to be a very hard decision. It’s going to be a very hard thing for me to do to leave here, because I feel like I’m leaving her.”

She said she will probably give herself another few weeks before she comes back. Yet, even if she does, she is not giving up on the idea that Emma will be found.

“I have to stay optimistic. I don’t have a choice ... I don’t have the ability to go anywhere else. I don’t have the emotional ability or strength to go anywhere down a road that’s not optimistic.”

The Facebook page that co-ordinates the search for Emma can be found at: facebook.com/HelpFindEmmaFillipoff.

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #4 on: January 05, 2013, 09:30:45 PM »
If Emma did commit suicide, it amazes me how someone can commit suicide in an urban area and not be found. But it wouldn't be the first time. I also wonder why she left her car in the parking lot of a nice hotel downtown?

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #5 on: January 10, 2013, 07:36:37 PM »
Could it be schizophrenia?  the onset is sudden and begins with a complete mental break.  I wish her mother had indicated if it was this specific disease that runs in the family.  Although schizophrenia is a neurological disorder, not a mental illness, many refer to it as such.  That is the diagnosis I think of first when I read that she is suddenly staying in shelters.  If it were depression, for instance, she would be more likely to either come home or check into a hospital.  With schizophrenia, she would be paranoid of everything, espcially of seeing a doctor.  I wonder if this shelter was more of a drop-in place or a goal-setting type facility where they would do a specific discharge plan- then they would know at least where she intended to head off to. 

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #6 on: January 18, 2013, 03:35:56 PM »
Thinking of Emma's mom as she continues the exhaustive search for her daughter. I have not read anything that says Shelly Fillipoff has returned to her home in Ottawa. 


Search for Emma Fillipoff spreads to the Inner Harbour

Posted on January 10, 2013 by cmclean by cmclean


VICTORIA – The Victoria Police Dive Team took to the waters of the Inner Harbour today, searching for Emma Fillipoff.

The 27-year-old has been missing since November 28th, and was last seen near the Empress Hotel. Her mother Shelley Fillipoff is holding out hope that her daughter will be found alive but knows time is running out.

Victoria Police say the dive was an evidence search, and that nothing was recovered, however they will continue to exhaust all leads.

If you have any information about Emma Fillipoff or her disappearance you’re asked to call Victoria Police at 250-995-7654.

http://www.ctvvancouverisland.ca/2013/01/search-for-emma-fillipoff-spreads-to-the-inner-harbour/

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #7 on: January 18, 2013, 10:22:36 PM »
Do ferries leave from the Empress Hotel area? 

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #8 on: January 18, 2013, 10:59:38 PM »
Her car was actually found at the Chateau Victoria Hotel, which is several blocks from the Empress Hotel and not immediately adjacent to the waterfront. It's a nice hotel.

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #9 on: January 19, 2013, 12:01:51 PM »
This article is from January 9th. Emma remains missing.


41 days in, search continues for Emma Fillipoff

Posted on January 9, 2013 by cmclean by cmclean


VICTORIA – It has been 41 days since Emma Fillipoff vanished from the streets of Victoria. And it has been 41 days since her mother left her family, job, and life in Ontario behind, to search for her missing daughter.

The tips have slowed down, and so have the sightings. But Emma’s family and police are holding out hope she will be found alive.

Shelley, Emma’s mom, strongly believes her daughter is dealing with a mental illness, and Victoria Police think she may have gone into hiding.

A number of tips and sightings have come in from the Langford and Metchosin areas. Shelley is asking anyone with a shed or cabin to take a look inside, and see if Emma is hiding out.

For information and pictures of Emma, visit the ‘Help Find Emma Fillipoff’ page on Facebook, at www.facebook.com/helpfindemmafillipoff

http://www.ctvvancouverisland.ca/2013/01/41-days-in-search-continues-for-emma-fillipoff/

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #10 on: January 19, 2013, 05:15:35 PM »
My heart goes out to Emma's mom and thier family, sending lots of positive thoughts, love and white light in hopes Emma is found soon.

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« Reply #11 on: January 20, 2013, 07:04:39 PM »
The ferries go over to Seattle. I lived in Victoria for two years and did go a couple of times to the US. But at that time we didn't need a passport, but now you do. So if she didn't have her passport with her, it is not likely she could go there. And if her car was at a hotel, how come she was staying at a hostel. This story is confusing and excuse me, but I'm mixed up. Also, if her mom was so concerned about her not being able to care for herself, she shouldn't have encouraged her to go so far away. Victoria is a nice place, but there is danger in every city, if the right person runs into a person that is trusting. She may have met someone at that hotel and video surveillance should be called on to see if she was seen there. But someone may have left her car there also, it may not have been her. Maybe someone there would recogize her. :o :o :o :o :o :o :o

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #12 on: January 21, 2013, 12:00:19 AM »
Cape , not sure that i have seen any where were it said her Mother encouraged her to go there ?  I was under the impression that this problems came up fairly recently, perhaps from the loss of a job etc. JMO

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #13 on: January 21, 2013, 09:05:06 PM »
As Emma is 26, she would be making her own decisions, regardless of the advice from her mother. She kept telling her mother she could work out her problems on her own, so her mother was taking a wait and see approach.

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Re: Emma Fillipoff, 26, missing on Vancouver Island since Nov. 28, 2012
« Reply #14 on: January 21, 2013, 09:47:58 PM »
Emma would not be the first person who went into hiding due to mental illness.  Let us hope that she is safe.
I would check all of the women's homeless shelters, hospitals, and have  city cops on the beat to watch  out for her, with pictures in hand.
Have her picture plastered all over the province.
A single search by the Mom in locating her is too great a task, impossible, to my mind.
A concerted effort by citizens is required to find her.
God Bless her Mother, and I wish from the bottom of my heart that her daughter will be returned to her safe and sound.

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