Author Topic: Arlene McLean - Missing - September 8, 1999 - Eastern Passage, NS  (Read 20447 times)

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Re: Arlene McLean - Missing - September 8, 1999 - Eastern Passage, NS
« Reply #30 on: March 12, 2017, 10:09:45 PM »
Taken from post #25

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She left her purse and her antidepressant medication behind.

Much is said about her purse.  Most articles said that she took her purse with her.
However, the antidepressant med's caught my eye.

Something there to pay attention to and to consider.

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Re: Arlene McLean - Missing - September 8, 1999 - Eastern Passage, NS
« Reply #31 on: March 12, 2017, 10:21:26 PM »
Here is more info on Arlene. The article begins with Tom Cook who's son Troy disappeared, so I have snipped the part about Arlene/jb

ww.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/atlantic-voice-what-happens-to-families-when-people-disappear-1.2872514

Atlantic Voice: What happens to families when people disappear?

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Tom Cook follows other missing persons cases, like that of Arlene McLean. She was just 28 years old when she left her home in Eastern Passage around 8:30 on the night of of Sept. 8, 1999.

She and her common law partner, Cliff Hall, lived in the duplex at 1 Melrose Pl. with their eight-year-old son, Kevin.

Cliff says Arlene was devoted to their son and worked at home as a babysitter so she could be there with Kevin, who is now 23.

"I actually don't remember a whole lot. I don't have a lot of specific memories, but I remember general characteristics about what she was like. She was very happy, very loving, very cheery," Kevin said.

He does have memories of the two of them making peanut butter and jam sandwiches. He also remembers that his mother loved to play video games.

The loss of his mother, which he said "changed my life forever", left him with a deep empathy for others.

"I just remember having a much broader perspective on life after that happened. I remember I'd always watch TV and see the commercials for starving kids in Africa. I always remember just being like, that sucks. I can't believe that exists and that's a thing that's going on," said Kevin.

"I remember when she left, me being like ... 'I'm one of those people experiencing something really bad and that most people don't experience. Not that I could relate to starving kids in Africa, but it just gave me a real sense of tragedy and pain in life. I was very aware of that at that age and I never took other kids seriously."

Kevin's father, Cliff Hall, still finds it hard to talk about Arlene's disappearance.

He said they'd been discussing a possible break up the night she disappeared. She received a phone call from a friend and then said she was going for a drive.

She took only her purse an
d the clothes she was wearing, got into her 1993 green, four door Hyundai Elantra and neither she, nor the car, have been since since.

Unlike missing persons cases today, the Arlene McLean disappearance didn't get widespread coverage in the media but Cliff Hall and his friends put up posters wherever they could.

'There's always 'What if this? What if that?''

A friend loaned him a car and he spent countless hours driving around, looking for Arlene. He even wrote to America's Most Wanted, hoping they would feature her disappearance on the show. He received a "Thank You" letter but that was all.

Fifteen years later, he's still not sure what to think.

"It was awhile before I would think to myself that she had died, but after a long time passed, people talking to you trying to convince you of that so you believe it, then for whatever reason it's up and down sometimes. Then you come up with reasons why she would be alive. Yeah, it's pretty much been like that for 15 years," he said.

Kevin says he doesn't spend a lot of time thinking about what happened to his mother. "That's kind of a waste of thought after awhile, a waste of space in my mind to dwell on that," he said.

His father continues to wonder. "There's always 'What if this? What if that?' I realized a long time ago I was doing it but it doesn't help, doesn't change anything," he said.

Tom Cook asks himself "what if" questions, as well. The day he dropped Troy at the apartment he was in a rush and didn't pull into the apartment driveway as he usually did, instead letting him out around the corner.

He wonders if he had pulled into the driveway, if he would have seen someone or something. Now, though, he just wants his son back.

"The biggest thing is when remains are found and we don't know who they are we have to sit on pins and needles waiting until they determine who it is and that's the hard part. Some family's going to get bad news and we're waiting right there with them. It's hard. It's really hard," says Tom.

Hear more about what these families deal with, in CBC reporter Yvonne Colbert's documentary on Atlantic